The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control. Paperback – 1 Jan. 2018

The book title says it all.The author reminds the reader when people-pleasing and appeasing others, to consider what’s at stake with your needs, desires, and way you pictured your life playing out.Brilliant Excerpts - The great cost of your lack of assertiveness and self-care is a life that doesn’t resemble anything you’ve ever wantedI love the analysis on Toxic Takers (TT). The people with a warped sense of entitlement. What you’ve worked for becomes a free resource they can tap into:The analysis on over-apologizing is spot on.Brilliant excerpts from the book :By over-apologizing, you are telling others that you are taking responsibility for the issue, even when that responsibility is inappropriate and you have not done any wrong.Over-apologizing creates an unnecessary sense of guilt and can undermine your own self-worth.When apologizing becomes second nature to you, not only do you remind others that you’re responsible for what goes wrong, you’re also directing that information to yourself.It’s like volunteering to be the scapegoat and even trying to get others to reinforce it as fact.The cycle continues when you start feeling worse and people blame you (inappropriately) even more.This book is essential reading for anyone who is looking to grow their self-care mindset and practice.I recommend the book.

I liked the no nonsense approach of this book. Helpful if your confidence is low or you are going through a particularly bad phase in I your life and need some ideas on how to buildyourself back up. I think that everyone will recognise some aspect of behaviour that has not helped them achieve what they want from life with good ideas on how to try and get to a better place.

This book helped me a lot and allowed me to discover myself. Given me the knowledge and the tools to understand why I over apologise, and I never used to know why I do that, but I have myself doing a lot. So when he said it, it was often a defence mechanism, which I can personally relate to, and the best part is that I read the book when I needed it the most. Thank you

Brilliant book!! As a chronic people pleaser I felt like he was talking directly at me in a lot of places! He breaks down complex topics really well and is written in a very concise way so I finished it in a few days and also means I can revisit it often to remind myself of the concepts. There's also a really detailed and specific action plan at the end for how to implement the topics from the book which I will DEFINITELY be revisiting. Great, empowering book!

This book will let you discover the type of communicator you are and how you can begin to correct the negative communications in your life. It does so with understanding and not judgement. It made me feel some regret for missed communications in my past but understanding these shortcomings is what this book helps to realise. Well worth a read

Great breakdown with examples of how to be better in everyday usage of assertiveness, feels like you have the power to say no without feeling the bad guy

I bought this book because I had listened to the whole of it on audible. I bought it knowing what was in it which is a high recommendation.But I'm only giving it four stars because it's not a book in the normal sense of a lot of care having been taken over the formatting.I'm guessing it's a book that has been made by Amazon publishing from the kindle version.If you want it for content to give you an improved perspective on what it means to be more assertive then I recommend it.

Great book, really helped me to understand how a lack of assertiveness has impacted my life and let too many toxic people in... lots of work to do and I’ll definitely have this book to hand to reread and help me. Definitely recommended!